Confidence vs. Concided

Whenever I am in a restaurant, or a luxury mall (with Tiffany & Co., Louis Vuitton, Cartier, etc.), you come across people you wouldn’t normally see on daily. Those people are sometimes looking like normal people, with sunglasses on, and a blue jacket that probably costs more than my first 1998 Honda Civic. Then there are those (both men and women are guilty) of exuding the “You can touch me, but my daddy will sue” look.

There is debate about those born into privilege, and why people still worship the Kardashians, but I’m not here to debate that. It’s about how confidence in a person can quickly become conceded. As I explained my own way of gaining and maintaining confidence, it’s easy to get caught up in today’s world of trendy items (Gucci fanny packs, Gucci leather belts, Balenciaga sock shoes, or Chanel classic handbags) but what are those people really saying to the world? What we wear or how we act shows who we are as people, and the confidence to wear a bold plaid jacket with a designer bag, and brand new white adidas ultra boost shoes is not a crime. You want to rock that fashion, and you made that money, you go and spend it how you like. No doubt! Yet, as soon as you treat those around you like “the help?” That is something that is honestly becoming an epidemic.

It’s becoming okay to lose sight of common sense, saying thank you, being grateful for what you earned yourself, but the need and angst of not having what’s new and a $3,200 designer bag is NOT the end of the world. Speaking for myself, I’ve loved the feeling of owning a designer bag that is basically a golden ticket when you walk into any store. They treat you different, under an impression you live a better life… with money. But once it got to my head, and I could see my confidence of wearing a great outfit (that actually matched and wasn’t from my high school days) and a Chloe shoulder bag was all I saw. People who know who the bag actually is, or care to stare at you walking down the street, why should I care what they think?

We shouldn’t let owning nice things, white athletic shoes, or luxury items in general make up our personality. There are certain people you should trust in, and I hope you’re thinking what I’m thinking: your family. Your family will keep it real with you, and by keeping it real, I mean they can tell when you’re “not yourself.” You can be confident, and exude happiness, and still be awesome. Again, wearing expensive items doesn’t make you conceited. It’s about who it brings out in you, and where you letting it lead you. Any true, honest person who gives out advice about “making as an entrepreneur” or “becoming successful,” they will tell you to buy in your budget, not the buy in the budget you want.