Dating Life: Is there a “right”impression?
Throughout my years in “the dating world,” I’ve encountered all types and I’m sure all the stories could blow any E! Tv series out of the water. There are countless podcasts, tv shows, and books on the world of where a stranger meets a stranger… and what will go wrong. How should one prepare themselves for this experience? When should we call it quits, and just marry the next guy that opens a door for you without asking him? Not to dive too deep into how manners is a dying art, but seriously, why is it so hard to hold the door open for another? Or even when it seems people play chicken with you when you’re both walking up to the same door and “somehow” they got there first, and they just keep walking, a saying comes to mind… I can’t even.
On a more on-topic note, my experience with letting your guard down and being open to meeting someone new is probably the hardest part. The genuine feeling of calming your nervousness, finding an outfit that doesn’t send the wrong message, and showing the right amount of yourself. What I mean with that is one of the biggest conundrums people seem to have trouble fine-tuning. Does it depend on whom your on a date with? Or if you know you have a strong personality versus being more introverted? Men versus women, and what stereotype fits what’s reality? Here’s what I’ve found: 2019 is no different than last year, or the year before that. Or the year before that. Tale as old as time, when there is chemistry between two people, that makes communicating a lot easier than just relying on alcohol to “make chemistry.” Those times I would start a conversation with someone, whether at a bar, a friends party, or even in the break room at work, I’ve noticed when I show my true personality… apparently it’s coming on too strong.
What exactly is coming on too strong? How would a woman act in front a man who are both attracted to each other, yet there may be more than one explanation as to why he would never call. I’m not ranting on, “oh woe is me, he never called after our first date or that amazing conversation about mexican food in the California!” What I’m wanting to solve is being confident in the first impression, and how the stereotype always comes up that women who show their goofy side or how they’re into watching PBS cooking shows is “too strong”? Or the reverse where men who… call you? Or worse yet, add you on facebook?
The way we see how someone is expressing affection and interest is debatable with certain cultures, and I’m not denying that. To each their own.